Thursday, December 4, 2008


A breakup or a divorce doesn't always have to be between a man and a woman. A break up also happens between friends. 

Sometimes, it turns out to be so difficult to get over the relationship, the friendship, the warmth, the love, the affection, that you once shared for each other. Sometimes, there's guilt, and then there's hate. 

The thoughts don't go away. It keeps haunting you, sometimes, the good memories surface and you smile, but eventually it makes you sad, thinking it had to turn out this way. The bad memories makes it all the more numb. It brings about this I don't care, I don't want to see anyone, I don't want to do anything, I don't want to talk to anyone attitude. 

You know very well, it's not the right feeling, that you have to get over it, move on, you know very well, you have a life to live and want to do exactly that. But somehow, invariably you do otherwise. 

You think, It's sad it had to turn out this way. You try to introspect. You wonder why ? Who was responsible ? Was it me or was it otherwise ? Nothing helps. The numbness comes back.

You come to learn, that the friend has moved on, and seems to be leading a peaceful, normal life, maybe even forgotten you completely. Now should this affect you ? Yes, it does. You wonder why ? Why ? 

It's going to be a good few years now. You have to move on. You think, time will heal, or atleast time will help reduce the pain. But how much more time ? 

The mire of inconsistent feelings and emotions, keep coming back. You try to fight it. You will. 


  1. hey there, long time!

    well, i think we just over rate a lot of things in life, and people, almost all the time. i think people are mostly part of our lives for a specific reason, and when the purpose is accomplished, something - an event, sometimes a misunderstanding, naturally takes them away from us - to let new people come in. it is the way of life. we have to learn, and move on i think, and be grateful for what people were, when they were around...

  2. Hey, first time visit here, from Dharma's blog.
    This thing you wrote about is so oft-felt that for once, I went into a deja-vu w.r.t writing it myself someday in the past...!

    But I wanted to let you know that this is part of what they call "change" - sometimes its unwelcome as the breakup is... Its easy to advice I know, but its worthwhile to think about this question:" If the breakup does not affect him/her,then why should I reel under its after-effects??" Also, Amitabh Bachchan's Dad told him a saying that makes more sense to my mind and he said: " Mann ka ho to achcha, mann ka na ho to zyadaa achcha" Hope you get over the pain and post-breakup depression soon! God Bless

  3. Dharma,

    That is one way of dealing with the whole thing. I tend to agree maybe we over rate it, than that of what is required. I'd like to think too that their purpose is over, but somehow it all seems not so right.


    Welcome here :)Many thanks for your kind words.